The Rock (yes that Rock–Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson) is the inspiration behind today’s post. Or one of them at least.
(Remember, I’m going to occasionally talk about my obsessions on this blog…The Rock is just one of many…and did you know he has an f’ing alarm clock you can download?! Mind blowing goodness, that’s what it is.)
In a recent video post on his Instagram page, The Rock spoke and wrote about his anchors in life–his family and his physical training–and how they drive him to keep pushing himself.
In The Rock’s own words, “Find your anchor and protect it.”
(Now that man should have his own f’ing daytime talk show. Oprah, can you smell what The Rock is cookin’?)
And so, thanks in part to The Rock, I’ve been thinking a lot about this idea of anchors.
A lot has changed over the past few years.
- I’ve grown older and wiser and tougher.
- I’ve changed jobs and volunteer gigs.
- I’ve had some dark days and I’ve had some great ones.
- I’ve travelled and stayed still.
- I’ve tried new things I never in a million years thought I would (pole fitness, skiing, Krav Maga, shooting a gun to name a few) and stubbornly refused to let other things go (mac and cheese addict forever).
- I’ve read and not read.
- I’ve written and not written.
All through these normal life fluctuations my anchors have largely remained the same and kept me sane–my family, my friends and my own training.
Anchor #1: Family
My family has given me the unconditional love only a family can. Despite our disagreements, annoyances, and frustrations we may share sometimes, I know that I can always count on them to be there for me no matter what.
I am grateful to have such a family as I know not all do. They are there with a life float if I ever need it and they are always open to listening if I choose to share my thoughts.
I am grateful. I am grateful. I am grateful. Thank you.
Anchor #2: Friends
My friends have given me joy, adventure and a place among them to shine as myself. With them, I am safe to be exactly who I am while also being pushed and challenged so that I can grow ever more wiser. They make me smile, but more importantly they make me laugh.
This last sentence reminds me of a line in Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice when Elizabeth Bennett writes to her aunt and uncle about her relationship with Mr. Darcy: “I am happier even than Jane; she only smiles, I laugh.”
My friends aren’t quite like dreamy, steamy Mr. Darcy but the same sentiment applies as they give me pure joy.
Thank you. I am so grateful.
Anchor #3: Training
And then my training anchor comes in two parts: inner (self, soul, emotional, mental, whathaveyou) and outer (physical). I have found over the years that if I leave either part unattended my whole self suffers whether or not my family or friends are readily available.
My inner training has ranged from reading and writing to coloring and meditating and yoga. All of these practices bring me back to center even amid chaos.
My outer training has varied over time from steady distance running to high intensity fitness like Krav Maga and MMA. Whatever it is, I know I need it. Go a week without it and my mood and outlook already feels off. With it, I feel powerful and empowered.
Find Your Anchor(s)
If you’re like me and feel like you’ve lost your way during a life shift or anticipate some life changes happening down the road, I encourage you to think about who or what are your anchors and make sure you keep ‘em by your side.
You may not need them all the time (helicopter anchors are no good just like helicopter parents–eek!), but when you do need them they will be there waiting for you. Just remember to pay attention to them occasionally if they happen to be real people…real people don’t wait forever (real talk).
And if you feel like you don’t yet have anchors–don’t worry. Try some different tactics on for size that may make you feel calm, collected, safe and happy. No harm in trying and no harm in failing. Just keep going.
I wish you boundless seas of goodness in your anchor search. May you find what you need even amid uncertainty.
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